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post #1 of 14 (permalink) Old 06-13-2014, 11:02 AM Thread Starter
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Hi guys, I have been spooking around this site for a few years now, mostly about routing and woodworking but yesterday I had the shock of my life, and I just don't know exactly where to go, or what to do, who to talk to?

So a bit of background, I am an old fart of 63, I grew up on a ND Farm, and instead of finishing High School, I married and joined the Army. My first wedding aniversery found me in Oakland on my way to Vietnam. I did my time over there with the Engineers rebuilding highways, building fire bases and such, I was a communicator so mostly I just ran the radio or teletype machines, what ever was needed. Did 14 months with a break to come home when my son was born. When it was time to come home, I studied for a long time on weather to stay for another year, or go home. The thoughts of my wife and son pulled me harder then the thoughts of leaving my brothers in the unit, we were so close nit it was like nothing I had ever experienced before but I came home. I often wondered what happened to those wonderful fellows I served with, drank with, and fought beside when necessary until yesterday. I had joined a site called "Together we Served" that covers both my military service and my 20 years serving as a police officer. Yesterday I dropped by the military side, and found a place I hadn't been on that site listing fellows from my unit. It was then I discovered that something awful must have happened about three weeks after I left as the names of many of my comrades were listed as "fallen in battle". Hit me like a brick, now I know why I could never find them on the web looking at their home town papers and such. Really threw me for a loop, I have just finished about a year in therapy for PTSD from over there, now this. Have to see how it goes I guess, I hate to go back in therapy again as it's a 175 mile drive each way to the VA from where I live, and once a week is costly. Especially since the VA says the PTSD is from the police work and not my service in Nam.

oh well, thanks for providing me a place to vent, I need that more then anything.
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Jerry first off I'd like to say thank you for your service . Secondly I got a tear in my eye reading your story as that is truly sad . That is terrible what happened to your comrades and to think you only recently found out . That would be hard on anyone IMO . I'm very sorry to hear this and I hope you stay strong for them
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Thank you for your service (on both fronts). You guys got a really raw deal that you didn't deserve when you got back from Vietnam (regardless of anyone's position on whether the war was right or wrong), and it (obviously by this disclosure) isn't getting any better. I can offer you no advice, as I wasn't there. But I do offer you respect and best wishes.

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Thank you for your service to our country.
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Jerry ~ Welcome home, brother. Continue to “talk it out” and keep busy with woodworking. This is a good site with lots of compassionate members. Not everyone might respond publicly, but we all feel your pain.

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I understand your pain, Jerry, but I don't have any answers. I was there too, with the First Cavalry Division in 1969 and 70. Anyone who has been in combat knows that war is a brutal and ugly thing and life is fragile. You can't participate in war and remain unchanged.

We were young men and it was a long time ago so, for me, I choose to enjoy today and look to the future rather than dwell on the past. I can't change the things that happened. I can only change the way I think about them.

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Thank-You for your service!
I wish you and your family all the peace and happiness life can offer, and life is good!
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Thank you for your service and sacrifice. I echo all that the others have said. I wasn't in the service due to health problems, but I know several of my high school friends fell in Vietnam. If it helps, consider what your fallen friends would want for you. My guess is they would want you to remember them, and miss them, but also for you to be at peace, and live a good life to give their sacrifice a tiny bit more meaning.

Hope this doesn't seem insensitive, just another way to think about it.
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Jerry
I am also a Viet Nam Vet ( Army Infantry 1968). I lost a lot of friends there too. My career after that was as a fireman for 30 years. I understand what you are going through. All I can say is live for the present.
Make sure you appeal the VA decision. You should be able to get a decision in your favor. It may take some time but stay with it. The VA hopes you will drop the issue so they won't have to compensate you.
If you would like to talk my email is [email protected]
Take care of yourself
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I understand your pain, Jerry, but I don't have any answers. I was there too, with the First Cavalry Division in 1969 and 70. Anyone who has been in combat knows that war is a brutal and ugly thing and life is fragile. You can't participate in war and remain unchanged.

We were young men and it was a long time ago so, for me, I choose to enjoy today and look to the future rather than dwell on the past. I can't change the things that happened. I can only change the way I think about them.
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