Not quite sure what you're saying.
First you say the lock nut is missing.
Then say you found a suitable jam nut.
Then say the threads for the lock nut are messed up; but you just said the lock nut is missing.
Either that or take it to your local hardware and try nuts until you find one that fits.
So, what is it that is missing, and what is it that is messed up?
If you have something that threads on, and something else that is messed up, I would just try dies on whatever will thread on, find one that fits, then use the die on the messed up thingy.