Been there, done that.
I found it is beneficial trying to build your own router table. I had similar problems and then bought a router plate kit that included a template and guide bushing. That worked well, but my table top and fence were pretty much of a disaster.
The beneficial part was I had a good idea what to look for when I bought a router table.
A router collet extension may solve your other problem.
I bought the plate kit and extension (#9464) from mlcswoodworking.com. Don't buy their router!
My router table is from hartvilletool.com - very happy with their products.
I found it is beneficial trying to build your own router table. I had similar problems and then bought a router plate kit that included a template and guide bushing. That worked well, but my table top and fence were pretty much of a disaster.
The beneficial part was I had a good idea what to look for when I bought a router table.
A router collet extension may solve your other problem.
I bought the plate kit and extension (#9464) from mlcswoodworking.com. Don't buy their router!
My router table is from hartvilletool.com - very happy with their products.